Forgiveness is for the strong
We know forgiveness requires inner strength, resilience, and character. It is often the easiest route to simply resent those who have harmed us. Holding grudges and clinging to anger can seem justified and even satisfying in the moment. However, dwelling in negativity and bitterness rarely leads us to positive outcomes. Ultimately it poisons our own peace of mind.
True forgiveness - real release of the pain inflicted by others - is a difficult challenge. It asks us to tap into our wells of compassion and see that all human beings are flawed and complex. With radical empathy we strive to understand why someone has hurt us, while still denouncing their harmful actions. We must find healthy boundaries, while letting go of our festering rage.
This takes immense courage and spiritual fortitude from us. But living with an open and unburdened heart aligns us with higher virtues like mercy, charity and hope. It allows us to move forward unfettered by the shadows of yesterday’s wounds. With time and effort, we can learn to forgive without condoning. This act of letting go and opening up unveils our collective strength. It is for the brave amongst us, not the weak.
In this sense, forgiveness belongs among the highest attributes of our shared humanity. It turns us toward the light, rather than resigning us to darkness. It elevates us above base instincts of retaliation and pride. True forgiveness may be painful for us and require significant toil, but it is a labor of enlightenment. It is a hallmark of the spirited and strong-willed amongst us.
